RESOURCES FOR FAMILIES AND CHILDREN
RESOURCES FOR FAMILIES DEALING WITH DIVORCE
Divorce - Recommended reading
Helping Your Child Through a Divorce – Includes information on coping with divorce. See also Tips for Divorcing Parents for other suggestions about communicating with your child after a split. (Nemours Foundation) http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/help_child_divorce.html
Helping Children Understand Divorce – Provides tips for talking with children about divorce and helps parents understand children's thoughts and feelings about divorce. (University of Missouri) http://extension.missouri.edu/p/GH6611
Helping Children Adjust to Divorce: A Guide for Teachers – Provides helpful tips for coping with divorce and guiding children through the transition time after a divorce. (University of Missouri)
A Kid’s Guide to Divorce – Answers children’s most common concerns and questions about divorce and offers suggestions for handling feelings about divorce. (Nemours Foundation)
Dealing with Divorce – An article for teens that discusses ways to cope with their feelings about their parents’ divorce. (Nemours Foundation)
Overcoming Divorce Trauma – Discusses the damage that can occur in a divorce and suggests ways to prevent divorce trauma. (Divorce Source)
Divorce - Tamara D. Afifi
First published: 01 December 2015 https://doi.org/10.1002/9781118540190.wbeic050
Divorce & Conflict - Dr. Tamara D. Afifi, in her May 20, 2012 TEDxUCSB talk discusses what determines outcomes for children as they grow into adulthood [Use this link to hear the complete Ted Talk - Downloaded on February 3, 2019 from https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=cKcNyfXbQzQ.]
Divorce as Loss Recommended Reading
Coping with Separation and Divorce – Helpful tips on how to cope with and recover from a separation, divorce, or relationship breakup. (Mental Health America)
Recovering from a Break-up – Article describes what you can to do recover after a breakup, including how to cope with painful feelings and learn from past mistakes. (UC Riverside Counseling Center)
Divorce Matters: Coping with Stress and Change (PDF) – Practical guide to restructuring family life and coping with the loss and change that come along with separation and divorce. (Iowa State University)
Relationship Break-Up Living in the Void – Tips for making it through the pain of divorce and feeling your grief. (Thriveafterdivorce.com)
Find a DivorceCare group meeting near you - Worldwide directory of support groups for people going through a separation or divorce. (DivorceCare) [Faith Based]
Kruk, E. (2012). Co-Parenting and High Conflict. Psychology Today, posted May 15, 2012. Downloaded October 21, 2018 from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201205/co-parenting-and-high-conflict
Scott, M. (2017). Co-Parenting. https://www.mediate.com/articles/ScottM.cfm Downloaded 10/12/2018
Coping With Stress and Change: Divorce Matters – Iowa State Extension Office https://store.extension.iastate.edu/product/Coping-with-Stress-and-Change-Divorce-Matters
Saposnek, D. T. (2016, July 10) What Should We Tell the Children? Developing a Mutual Story of the Divorce. downloaded 10/11/2018 https://www.mediate.com/articles/falleditorial.cfm
Williamson, J.C. (2016, May 30). Parenting Partnerships: Stuck With Each Other Forever. Blog. Downloaded 03/15/2018 from https://amitymediationworkshop.com/divorced-parenting/
Arizona parenting plan https://www.azcourts.gov/portals/31/parentingTime/PPWguidelines.pdf
Florida Courts parenting plan example, retrieved on 12/2/2018 from https://www.flcourts.org/content/download/403367/3458536/995a.pdf
Considers many events and details to consider and gives you the instructions for a parenting plan required by the Florida Supreme Court. There are other plans available and your lawyer may have one.
Montana State University Parenting plan information. Retrieved on 12/30/2018 from
Kindlon, D. (2001). Too much of a good thing: Raising children of character in an indulgent age. New York: Miramax Books.
Laumann-Billings, L. & Emery, R.E. (2000), Distress among young adults from divorced families. Journal of Family Psychology, 14:671-687.
Mayer, B.S. (2004). Beyond neutrality: Confronting the crisis in conflict resolution. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.
Mosten, F.S. (2009). Collaborative Divorce. San Francisco, CA: John Wiley & Sons.
Divorce & Conflict - approx 15 min - Dr. Tamara D. Afifi, in her May 20, 2012 TEDxUCSB talk discusses what determines outcomes for children as they grow into adulthood [Use this link to hear the complete Ted Talk - Downloaded on February 3, 2019 from https://www.youtube.com/watch?reload=9&v=cKcNyfXbQzQ.]
NOTE: Apologies, there is an ad on this video that lets you click off of in 3 seconds.
More Information On Children's Brain Development
Domestic Violence can negatively affect the very chromosomes of your child.
Please go to this link on the Guardian Ad Litem website for important information on how your child's brain develops and evidence that yelling, as well as physical violence in the home negatively affects the child when this occurs and the long term effects.
Florida Statute 39.01
Chapter 39 PROCEEDINGS RELATING TO CHILDREN
Florida Statute 39.201
Chapter 39 PROCEEDINGS RELATING TO CHILDREN
39.201 Mandatory reports of child abuse, abandonment, or neglect; mandatory reports of death; central abuse hotline.
Florida Statute 827.03
Chapter 827 - ABUSE OF CHILDREN
827.03 Abuse, aggravated abuse, and neglect of a child penalties
Florida Statute 827.04
Chapter 827 - ABUSE OF CHILDREN
827.04 Contributing to the delinquency or dependency of a child; penalty.
Florida Statute 65.503
Chapter 61 DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE; SUPPORT; TIME-SHARING
Positive Parenting Guide
Excerpt from the Positive Parenting Guide
Like their bodies, children’s brains still have a lot of growing to do after they are born. What children learn through their early interactions with parents and caregivers becomes the foundation for all future development.
Research shows that nurturing relationships and safe, secure environments improve brain development and child well-being. Parents and caregivers who have a social network and concrete support in times of need are better able to provide safe environments and nurturing experiences for their children.
All families need a helping hand at some point, so we want to be sure you know that help is available when you need it.
This book provides information about:
Child development from birth through the teen years
Tips for creating the stimulating and nurturing environments children need
Tips for managing the challenges of family life
Contact information for valuable community resources
Remember, it is also important for you to take good care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. When you are feeling good, it is easier to be a positive, loving parent and do all you need to do to care for your child. We hope you use the resources in the following pages as a guide for what you can expect as your child develops. We also encourage you to talk to your child’s doctor or other professionals if you have any questions or concerns about your child.
Your Child's Brain Development
Below is a link to a site where you can download an e-book on children's Brain Development.
Allison Davies says, "Visualize your brain as an email inbox. Now visualise the gazillions of emails dropping into that inbox every day - in the form of every single thing we see, every single thing we hear, all the data to process and decisions to be made. And now imagine yourself trying to get to inbox zero every day.
And then picture a child's brain trying to do the same.
Childhood anxiety isn't a "why?" issue - it's a "no wonder" issue!
And this only just scratches the surface.
When you really step back and look at what’s going on in the brain vs what it was designed for vs what we are expecting of it?
Our lifestyle HAS to change!
Little ones are experiencing more overwhelm, overload and anxiety than ever before.
And WE - their parents, carers and teachers - have the potential to be the biggest change makers in their lives!"
CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE - Most of these are short videos. Other resources can be found at:
Dr. Bailey says, "All behavior is a form of communication. Instead of seeing bad behavior as a sign that a child is inherently bad, you will learn to see behavior as a sign that the child is missing a skill. Instead of trying to control the situation or control the child, you will learn to teach the child the skill that he or she is missing."
Power of Attention - Dr. Becky Bailey - "Becoming the Best You Can Be" Webinar Series
Dr. Becky Bailey at TEDx - Wiring the Brain for Success
Dr. Becky Bailey on PBS - Shifting from Fear to Love
Using Logical Consequences - Conscious Discipline Skills
Disciplining My Daughter with Down syndrome
"Gentle Parenting is about guiding instead of controlling, connecting instead of punishing, encouraging instead of demanding. It's about listening, understanding, responding, and communicating. Here you will find parenting tips, articles, and research to help parents, teachers, and caregivers develop a kinder, more peaceful, and instinctive approach to growing our most precious natural resource...our children!"
Little Hearts/ Gentle Parenting Resources
L.R. Knost's compassion, wisdom, and insights into children and their behavior comes through in everything she writes and designs. Please do yourself a favor and check out her website, read the articles, order the books for yourself and your children. She sheds light and gives insight into even some of the most challenging behaviors and how to lovingly help your child to grow and develop inner strength and wisdom.
THE CENTER FOR PARENTING EDUCATION
"The Center for Parenting Education is a non-profit organization founded in 1997. Our mission is to provide parenting support and education to families so they can do the best job they can in raising their children. By gaining important insights and learning new skills parents can help their children can reach their potential."
On this site you can find Articles, a resource directory, a list of Recommended books and more